Shock and appall, right?
I know it's happened to us all, a group of people you are tight with go off and form a group blog without asking you to join, you get left off of someone's "follow Friday"/blog award list, or, my personal favorite, a big name author follows you on Twitter and you think, "How nice!" and follow them back, only, when you do, they drop you like a hot potato (they just wanted your follow - not you.)
It's enough to make anyone feel want to unplug from the Internet and crawl into a hole. Now, here's where I'm going to share with you a little secret. It's been my life motto for as long as I can remember. Just ask my husband, it's something I mumble to myself before I get up on stage to sing, speak on a panel, or walk into a party where I don't know a single soul.
Fake it until you make it.
It sounds dumb, but I swear it works. Before any public event I go to, I look at myself in the mirror and say, "You're good enough, you're smart enough..." Okay, so I don't say that. Hee. But I do tell myself that I am the person I want to be. "You're Cole Gibsen. You're funny, confident, and people are glad that you're here." And it helps me every time.
You can't hide from social media. (Well, you can but you're going to be missing out on an opportunity to meet some really awesome people.) And you can't stop sucky people from sucking. But you can change the way others perceive you and, in turn, how you perceive yourself. Just because you don't feel confident, that doesn't mean you can't act confident. You may not feel like a success or that you deserve the same accolades as that six-figure-advance author, but that doesn't mean you can't act like you do. Sometimes people act like jerks, they hurt your feelings and make you feel bad. But that doesn't mean you can't rise above it.
For more links on this chain check out Sandra's post before mine and Eric's on the twelfth!